I know, I know. I did the math wrong on Stonewall. I don’t know what I was thinking. I knew it was 40 years, but on two different occasions wrote that it was 30 years. Hmmm. Maybe I’m getting old.
Speaking of gay pride.
The word “FAGGOT.”
Over the past couple of weeks I’ve been in a snit over the use of the word. I don’t like it. I don’t like it when gay people use it. I especially don’t like it when straight people use is. Unfortunately the word gets tossed around a lot at work. Tonight I counted four different occurrences including being called a fag by a fellow waiter who thought she was being cute. There’s a hispanic worker who calls me a “maricon” every time he get annoyed with me. I hear things like “don’t be a fag.”
For the past couple of weeks I’ve really been calling people on it. Tonight when John used it I explained, once again, that the word was offensive. There is no other way around it. If I were black there isn’t a single person in the restaurant that would say to me “don’t be a nigger.” It wouldn’t happen. What I don’t understand is why people assume it’s okay to call me a fag.
I don’t like it.
So my question to you guys is: What do I do to make them stop? Do I go to management and have them do something? Do I just realize that if I had a sense of humor it wouldn’t be an issue? Do I just take back the night and start using the word as well? I’m kind of in a quandary. Clearly it’s bothering me or I wouldn’t be writing about it here. I’m tempted to go to management and have them say something but I’m about 90% sure everyone will know who’s said something.
Before you say it’s inappropriate, I agree. But in a wait station in a restaurant there is a lot said and done that is not appropriate. There are sex jokes, innuendoes, lots and lots of inappropriate conversations. I do have to admit that for the last couple of months I’ve gone out of my way not to engage in these activities.
What would you do in this situation?