A Wednesday Check-up

I’ve been sitting here all morning trying to think of something witty to post about.  I’m coming up blank.   So I’ll just fill you in on what’s happening.

First, one of my favorite bloggers is in the hospital having tests run.  If you get the chance stop by his place and wish him well.  He’s a great guy and would love to have the company.

Speaking of Spider, I was worried about him yesterday so I emailed his friend Sorted to get the details of what was going on.  He emailed me back with his phone number and last night we chatted for almost an hour.   It’s the first time I have talked to a blogger either on the phone or in person.  I’ve crocheted a couple of scarves for some people, and emailed back and forth but I haven’t actually spoken to anyone.  It was quite nice.  We talked about our lives, our jobs, and a lot about how Spider is doing.  I hope this is the beginning of many conversations with Sorted.

Spring break starts tomorrow for me.  My classes finish up at 10:50 and I plan to be on the road driving east by 11:01.  I’ll of course have to stop for gigantic Diet Coke at Kum and Go before I hit the road.  It’s about a 10 hour drive to my mom’s house in Kentucky.   I’ll be on the road all day.  A couple of people have asked what kind of car I was renting for the trip.  It was just dropped off at my house.  It’s a blue Chevy Impala.  It was very nice of Enterprise to bring it to my house don’t you think.  It’s their way of apologizing for not having the car yesterday like they were supposed to.  I spent all night worrying that I wouldn’t have a car to use tomorrow.

I’ll finish by giving a shout out to my friend Todd.  He’s had a rough couple of days.  Without going into the details, I’ll just leave it at…it’s boy trouble.  I’m sure it’ll work out, one way or the other, he’s just having to deal with the crap of it right now.  If you want, Todd, I can go to his house and slash his tires, if that’ll make you feel better.  Just let me know.

That’s it for today.  I’ll try and post pictures of my trip and keep everyone informed of where I am and how my vacation is going.


Hindsight is 20/20

snellehart.gif I woke up in a panic today.

I was told the last time I rented a car that my license expired next month. I made a mental note of it and thought no more about it. What I realized this morning is that I need to get a new New York state driver’s license while I am home for spring break. This isn’t a really big issue except for one thing. I can’t pass the eye exam.

I’ve been wearing glasses since right after college. My eyes aren’t that bad. The vision in my left eye is perfect, but I have an astigmatism in my right eye that seems to have gotten worse as I’ve gotten older. The problem is that I lost my glasses almost two years ago and I’ve never replaced them. Although I should wear them all the time, I can get by without them. What I can’t do is past the vision exam without them. Which presents a problem.

So in the next two weeks I need to schedule an eye exam, shop for and buy new glasses, get them, and then go in and get a new driver’s license. I’m not sure that I can do this. I don’t think there’s enough time especially for the shopping and buying part. It took me a week last time I got glasses to find some that I liked. Of course, knowing that I don’t have that kind of time might change things.

And I have to do all of this on two dollars. I don’t have hundreds of dollars to spend on new glasses, so I’m going to have to go the cheap route. I may actually go tomorrow and try to get the eye exam here in Iowa. It would be my guess that the exam would be cheaper here and the prescription would be good anywhere. That would then give me a week to find new glasses when I get to NYC and then a couple of more days to actually get my license.

What I’m really not liking is the stress. I don’t want to have to worry about all this on my break. I want to be able to go to NYC and have fun and not have stress about all the crap I need to do. But alas that is not to be….ugh!!!

Spring is in the air….

As many of you suggested, I just need to hold out a little longer and spring will be here. In fact that appears to be true. It’s 52 degrees in Iowa today. Perhaps the cold weather, snow and ice are behind us and the warm weather will be here to stay. Of course, with the warm weather comes the melting of the snow and now everything is a beautiful brown color, mixed with faded greens and mud. Don’t get me wrong I’m not complaining. It’s just that yesterday I took a misstep and sunk to my ankles in mud. I realize of course it won’t be forever and before you know everything will be a brilliant green and the crocus and tulips will be in full bloom. I just need to hang on to my faith that winter is NOT always present in Iowa.


Speaking of spring, Spring Break for me starts on Friday. Yippppeee!!!! I can hardly wait. I’m headed east back to NYC. In fact my classes on Thursday are finished at 10:50 a.m. and I plan to be in my car by 10:52. And yes, you heard me correctly car. I’m driving to NYC. And no I’m not crazy. As it turns out it’s cheaper and will allow me more flexibility for my trip.

As many of you know, I sold my car last summer when I moved to NYC. You don’t really need a car when you can take the subway everywhere you need to go. I was able to get a good price for it and I was on my way. Little did I know 4 months later I would need a car again. However, I was assured when I discussed coming to Iowa that the little town I’d be living in was small enough to get around without a car. It’s only about 2 miles wide by 2 miles wide. Most everything is centrally located in the downtown area except for the Wal-mart which is out by the highway. So I arrived in Iowa in January and and have been on foot ever since. It’s true that you can get by without a car except for some small inconveniences which no one tells you about.

The biggest inconvenience is getting to the airport. It’s an hour by car and there’s no “car service” to pick you up and drop you off, so it’s a little tricky to get there. It’s also not convenient for anyone to agree to take you so you are left trying to figure out how to get there. For me the answer has been to rent a car. There is one car rental place near by that has an agreement with the college. You can pick the car up here and drop it off here. Unfortunately, you have to pay for it.

So to get to and from the airport is more than 100 dollars. If you add to that the 350-400 dollars for the plane ticket you’ve already reached a price of more than 500 dollars. Add to that the 50 or so dollars each way to get to and from the airport in NYC and suddenly your are well over 600 dollars for the entire trip. I would have been happy to do this, but a friend of mine who knows that I don’t mind driving suggested I look into renting the car and just driving to NYC. I thought he was crazy and that it would cost a fortune to rent a car for more than two weeks. But I did some research and found a car through an Internet sight for 68 dollars a week. For the entire time it was only 200.08. That’s quite a savings if you ask me.

I discussed this option with a number of people before I finally decided that driving was the way to go. In fact at one point not only was I going to drive I was even contemplating driving to the west coast. But in the end NYC won out. I leave on Thursday right after class and am driving to Kentucky to see my mom. It’ll make her happy and it breaks up the trip. I’ll spend Friday and Saturday with her and then leave Sunday morning for NYC.

The drive to Kentucky is about 10 hours and the drive to NYC is about 12 hours. Not a bad days drive and it can be fun. I’ll crank up the music and enjoy the time by myself. On Sunday night I’ll get to sleep in my own queen sized bed, and for the first time in two months won’t have to worry about turning over and falling out of my twin sized bed.

I’ll spend a week in NYC and then the following weekend will drive to Portland, Maine to see my best friend Michelle. She and her girlfriend Lisa are trying to have a baby and by the time I get there they should know if there is a possibility of this happening. I’ll spend a couple of days there, drive back to NYC, spend a couple of more days there and then return to Iowa on March 30th.

Not a bad two week vacation if I don’t say so myself. I’ll take lot’s of pictures and post along the way to keep you guys on top of where I am and what I am doing.

So yes, it appears that spring is in the air and it’s not a moment too soon.

Maddog’s Sexual History…

I saw this meme over at Ur-Spo’s earlier in the week and it looked fun. Maybe a bit embarrassing but fun all the same.

Have you ever had sex with the opposite sex?
No. Never had it never will. I used to think it might be fun to try it, but I’ve outgrown that silliness.

Who is the first person you came out to?
A friend I worked with sort of. We talked about it then it was never mentioned again. Then I moved to Atlanta and started waiting tables at a restaurant where all but two of the front of house employees were gay. It didn’t take long to knock the door down.

Are you out to your parents?
No. I’ve never talked about it with them. At the same time I don’t hide it. I don’t “gay” proof my house when they come to visit and I’ve had a couple of boyfriends that I’ve lived with that they’ve come to visit, seen the house and known that there was only one bed. That being said, I don’t talk about a lot of stuff with my parents so I’ve never felt like I needed to tell them.

Do you want kids?
No. I like playing with other people’s kids but I’ve never wanted my own. I’m too selfish to let them watch what they want on TV but more importantly, there are way TOO many kids in the world for me to bring in more.

Do you have more gay friends or straight friends?
If you’d ask four years ago it would have been gay. Now it’s probably straight.

Were you out in school?
Not in undergrad. It was a conservative religious school. That being said, half of my pledge class in my fraternity was gay. All of us came out much later. I was completely out though in both of my master’s programs.

Is your best friend the same sex as you?
No. M.M. has been my best friend for ten years. She is a lesbian, so that’s sort of like being a man.

If your best friend is the same sex, have you ever kissed them?
I have’t kissed M.M either.

Have you ever done crystal meth?
Once. It was a very messy night, that I don’t like to think about it. It was fun though.

Have you ever been in a sling?
Yes. Several times. It’s a lot of fun.

Have you ever done a 3-way?
Too many to count. And 4-ways. And 5-ways. And…well you get the point.

Have you ever dressed in drag?
Three or four times. Never seriously. Always having fun with my friends.

Would you ever date a drag queen?
Probably not. I’ve never seen one that was cute out of drag.
Do you enjoy leather, costumes or role playing?
I was very into leather when I first moved to NYC. That’s a about a months worth of posts in itself.

Are you a top/bottom or truly versatile?
Versatile. I always say…why limit yourself?

Have you seen an uncircumcised thingy?
Seen or done? They can be a lot of fun.
Are you uncircumcised?

Have you had sex with someone of a different race?
As I said, why limit yourself…

Have you ever barebacked?
Not in a very long time. But yes I have done it, in moments of stupidity.

How many Cher CDs do you own?
At least two.

Name your first true love?
Jim was my first boyfriend. Sam was my one and only true love. I love him still.

Do you still talk to them?
No. There were a series of events that finally made me realize that I couldn’t have him in my life unless he made some changes. He didn’t, I said good-bye.

Does size matter?
As I’ve said in this blog before. I’ll be the first to admit that I like big dicks. But I would also never not have sex, or date someone because of size. In the big scheme of things it’s not too important.

Biggest turn on?
Smile and eyes. If they’re blue it’s even better.

Biggest turn off?
Self-centeredness and egos.

Ever been harassed because you are gay?
A couple of times I’ve been called fag. I was once fired in NYC for being gay. It’s a fun little story that I’ll share sometime, but let’s just say the woman who did the firing was forced to pay for grad school.

Worst gay stereotype that applies to you?
I LOVE musical theatre and own many, many cast recordings. I’m not the biggest musical theatre queen ever, but I listen to them a lot. I also crochet as many of you know.

Ever been to a pride rally?
Many. NYC and Chicago.

Would you marry if you could?
Someone would have to ask first.

Would you rather be rich and smart or young and beautiful?
Rich and smart. I’m tired of being poor. And those things are long lasting if you know what you are doing.

Do you sculpt your eyebrows?
I’ve never had to. At least not yet.

Do you trim your body hair?
I used to shave my chest when I was working out. But I haven’t done that in a very long time.

Ever had sex with more than one person in a day?
HEHEHEHEHE. This one makes me giggle. I’d be hard pressed to say how many I’ve had sex with in one day.

Ever been to an orgy?
Sort of. I went to a sex club in NYC several times. Does that count.

Have you dated your best friends ex?
No. Probably won’t happen either.

Would you vote for Hilary Clinton if she ran for president?

If she were the Democratic nominee probably. But she’s not my first choice.

Do you want monogamy in your relationship?
I tend to like monogamy. If you aren’t going to be monogamous then it has to be mutually agreed upon.

Do you believe in true love?
I do. Unfortunately, it didn’t last.

Do you have any tattoos?
No. I’ve always said that the minute they finished the tattoo I’d change my mind and then have to spend thousands of dollars getting it removed.

Do you have any piercings?
My left nipple used to be pierced. But I took it out after a couple of years because it wouldn’t seem to heal.

Would you date a smoker?
Never. It’s the one deal breaker that I’m not negotiable about. My mother chained smoked when I was a kid and I’ve always hated it.

Do you know anyone who has died from HIV?
Surprisingly, only one. My friend Tony died about 15 years ago.

Do you know what Stonewall was?
Yes. It was a bar in NYC that just recently closed. The riots that occurred there started the gay rights movement.

Wonder Woman, Xena, or the Halliwell Sisters?
Wonder Woman.

Strangest place you have had sex?
Probably, in the sleeper part of an 18 wheeler truck. A friend of mine used to call me a truck stop whore.

Strangest place you’ve woken up?
I don’t usually sleep over until I know you. And if I did I probably wouldn’t sleep. I’d lay there looking at the clock waiting till time to get up.

Are your best years behind or in front of you?
Who knows. I hope not.

Favorite porn movie?
I’ve never been a huge fan of porn. I do have a fondness for the porn of the 80’s because that’s what I watched when I first came out. I also get a chuckle out of the movies with Kevin Miles because I knew him when he was not doing porn. Ah, was he a fun person to know….
Are you in love now?

Ever been in love with a straight guy/girl?
Crushes yes. A couple but not in love.

Did you ever have sex with them?

Have you ever been to a nude beach?
Black’s Beach in San Diego every day for almost two months when I first lived there. After a couple of times you forget that it’s a nude beach.

Have you ever been to a bath house?
Too many times to count.

Ever had sex in public?
Ummmmm. Yes. Once again tooooo many times to count.

Let me know if anyone else decides to do it. I’ll want to see what your answers are.

Is It Spring Yet?

I’m tired of waiting. Can’t it just be April? With 65 degree days with mid 40’s at night. Can’t the snow melt and ground stop being soggy? Can’t the tree limbs that fell during the ice storm, be chopped into mulch and gotten rid of? Can’t the spring flowers begin to bloom, brightening all our days? Is this really too much to ask for?

I’m ready for the cold weather to move north and leave us the f*ck alone. The low tonight will be 11 degrees. The high tomorrow will be the mid 20’s. It’s March for pete’s sake. It’s time for warm weather.

Speaking of spring. I’ve been working on the spring play at the local high school. I volunteered for this duty because I was bored and not doing anything else. It’s amazing how bad theatre can really be. It’s also amazing to see how hard these kids work at being bad. What I really want to say to them, is that it’s not really their fault. If they had a director that knew what she were doing, then the show might be okay. But Ms. X goes for the easy laugh and let’s the kids run the show. I sat in the house tonight, making changes to the lights wondering whether I should mind. Should I want the show to be good? Or is it more about the kids having a good time? Should I mind the scene with actors outside the bay window that the students suggested as being funny that just makes the show worse than it is? Should I mind that a minor character created so much stage business tonight in an effort to be funny that I stopped actually watching what the main characters were doing. I might add here that he wasn’t funny, just annoying.

I’m mixed on this situation. Part of me just likes knowing that they are having fun. But part of me wants them to realize that it’s a serious art that should be taken a little more seriously than they are taking it.

Since it’s not my show I can’t do anything about it anyway. I sit there, take notes about my design and try to ignore the rest of it. What do you guys think.

A Sleepy Sunday…

It’s Sunday. It took me almost two hours to get out of bed today. I didn’t get to bed until late last night and set the alarm because I had to be up and at the high school by 1 p.m. Not early by any measure. The alarm went off at 11:00 and then again every nine minutes until about 1:15. I only got up then because the phone was ringing and I wanted to see who it was. When I realized it wasn’t anyone I had to talk to, I went back to bed and stayed there until about 2:30. I finally got up, showered and then headed off to work at the high school. I managed to get a lot done there. Not quite finished, but definitely making progress.

I got home around 7:00 tonight and ordered dinner from the local pizza place. I got lasagna and salad. I was in no mood to trek to the grocery store in the snow and ice. Once dinner was here, I settled in front of the TV and put in a movie from Netflix. It was The Black Dahlia. It was boring from the minute it started. I kept hoping it would get better but it didn’t. I ended up napping for the two hours it was on wishing it would hurry up and go off. It finally ended and I’ve already ranked it on Netflix as sucking.

That’s it from my neck of the woods today. I am at the high school again tomorrow, because my portfolio review portion of my interview has been rescheduled yet once again for Wednesday. I’m beginning to think it’s not going to happen.

Have a great week everyone.

A Look At The Past…

I’ve seen this meme around this week and I thought it was very insightful so decided it would be nice to do.  It’s amazing to think how much has happened in the last 20 years.

20 years ago

1.) How old were you? 21
2.) Where did you go to school? I was getting ready to graduate from a small liberal arts school in Kentucky.
3.) Where did you work? The college bookstore
4.) Where did you live? I was living in my fraternity house.
5.) Where did you hang out? At my frat house mostly
6.) Did you wear glasses? No
7.) Who was your best friend? Liz was probably my best friend at  the time.
8.) How many tattoos did you have? No tattoos.
9.) How many piercings did you have? No piercings.
10.) What car did you drive? 1971 Ford Galaxy….it was a tank.
11.) Had you been to a real party? Just parties at my frat house which were reserved since there was no drinking on campus.
12.) Had your heart broken? Just a small little break that didn’t amount to much.
13.) Single/Taken/Married/Divorced: Very single.

10 years ago

1.) How old were you? 31
2.) Where did you go to school? Not in school
3.) Where did you work? I was teaching high school in Cincinnati.
4.) Where did you live? Living with my boyfriend Keith in Cincinnati.
5.) Where did you hang out? Mostly at home…we hosted poker night on a regular occasion.
6.) Did you wear glasses? Yes, when I remembered them.
7.) Who was your best friend? Keith.
8.) How many tattoos did you have? No tattoos
9.) How many piercings did you have? None yet.
10.) What car did you drive? A Ford Escort Station Wagon, my friends called it the family car.
11.) Had you been to a real party? Not really.
12.) Had your heart broken? Yes, the heart break that still defines them for me.
13.) Single/Taken/Married/Divorced: Taken, but not for long.

5 years ago

1.) How old were you? 36
2.) Where did you go to school? I had a B.A. and an M.A. from two schools in Kentucky
3.) Where did you work? I was working for a Fortune 500 company in Connecticut, hating every minute of it.
4.) Where did you live? I had a great apartment in Brooklyn
5.) Where did you hang out? I was in Connecticut most of the time so didn’t hang out much.
6.) Did you wear glasses? Yes, again when I remembered them.
7.) Who were your best friends? Louis when I got to see him.  Michelle when I got to see her which wasn’t often.
8.) Who was your crush? There was no one at the time.
9.) How many tattoos did you have? Still none.
10.) How many piercings did you have? None, now.  I hated it so I took it out and let it close up.
11) What car did you drive? Lived in NYC so didn’t have a car, but rented one every week to drive to Connecticut.
12.) Had you had your heart broken? Yes, still from 1995.
13.) Single/Taken/Married/Divorced/Bitter: Single, but in a couple of more months would begin a two year relationship.
14.) Any kids? NO!!!


1.) How old are you? 41
2.) Where do you go to school? Now have three degrees the third from a school in California.
3.) Where do you work? At a small college in Iowa.
4.) Where do you live? My home is in NYC but I’m residing in Iowa while I teach.
5.) Where do you hang out? At the movies in Iowa and at home.
6.) Do you wear glasses? I lost them two years ago and have never replaced them.
7.) Who are your best friends? Michelle although as always we don’t get to see each other as often as we would like.
8.) Who is your crush? Don’t really have one.
9.) Do you talk to your old friends? I talk to a number of them on a regular basis.
10.) How many tattoo’s do have? Nope, probably won’t happen.
11.) How many piercings do you have? Done with that too.
12.) What kind of car do you have? No car…walking suits me.
13.) Has your heart been broken? Several times by now.
14.) Single/Taken/Married/Divorced/Bitter? I would say bitter at the moment, but hoping it won’t last.

15.) Any kids? Hopefully never will.

Interview with a Vampire, I mean a Dean

I’ve been in interview hell for the last two days. The whole thing has actually been a real pain in my ass, so much so that I am not sure that I even still want the job.

It started last weekend when I found out I was moving forward in the interview process. I was talking to a co-worker who let me know that the interviews were going to happen and that I needed to address some of my weaknesses in the process. We finished the conversation and I immediately checked my email and received this:

Hi Maddog,

You’ll be interviewing here next week Wed and Thurs as I’m sure you know. Please let me know the title of your presentation. It will take place in 269 and probably will be on Weds 2/28. The master class will then be on Thurs along with meetings with the executive council, the dean and the president.

I’ll fill you in as the schedule takes shape. Let me know if you have any questions.

This was the extent of the information I had. As I read it I had many questions. Like what fucking presentation. What fucking Master Class. Oh, and by the way, does the fact that I’m not even available next Wednesday and Thursday even matter to anyone. I received this email last Friday and immediately called the chair of the department so that she could clarify exactly what I would be doing for the interview. To make matters worse I was in San Diego for the weekend with absolutely no time to plan for the interview, let a lone plan a presentation and put together a master class.

I was finally called back late Sunday afternoon. I indeed had to do a presentation. A portfolio presentation. Basically, I have to put my portfolio into a Powerpoint presentation and take an hour to discuss it. This would have been easy, if I hadn’t been in San Diego without access to any of my photos. I also didn’t have any time to do it even if I had the information with me. As for the class, it was a class about anything I wanted it to be about. I was told to pick something I am incredibly good at and spend an hour “teaching.” This is easier than it sounds. The audience will consist of people of all levels, students and faculty a like. Some of them will have base knowledge and some of them won’t. This will take some thought.

Fast forward a day and it’s 3:00 in the afternoon on Monday and it’s become apparent that I am not going home. This presents a problem because I will have to miss two classes on Tuesday but more importantly I’ll be behind yet one more day preparing for my interviews. I decide to call the chair of the department and let her know that there’s no way I can be ready for a Wednesday interview. She calls me back about an hour later and agrees to change it.

I finally get home and prepare for my presentation and do some prep work for meeting with the Executive Council. I start my interview yesterday with a meeting with students that goes very well. I had them laughing the whole hour we were together and I think I addressed most of their concerns. What I didn’t tell them is I had already voiced my version of their concerns to a number of people. I assured them if I got the job I would start the process to remedy the situation.

At 1:30 yesterday, Thursday, I was scheduled to meet with two members of the Executive Council. They are the big wig academics who get to decide if I am smart enough to work at their college, especially since I don’t have a PhD. I wouldn’t say the interview went well. I answered all their questions but they seemed to not like some of my answers. The whole process was complicated by the fact that the phone kept ringing and one of the guys kept answering it. In the middle of the interview, school was cancelled for the day. It seemed to me that I was definitely not the most important thing on their agenda. They were also concerned that I consider myself more of a mentor than a teacher. They didn’t say it out right but they reminded me that it’s not a professional training school and that I should be giving them a valuable liberal arts education. What I wanted to ask them is what good the education is, if they can’t get a job when they get out because they don’t know how to do anything specifically.

As for the rest of yesterday’s schedule. It was cancelled. You can’t do a presentation if there’s no school. You can’t go to dinner meeting if there’s no school. UGH!!! Now everything is pushed back until Monday.

Today I met with the Dean, who gave me all the financial information. He talked a lot and I just nodded my head and said uh-huh a lot. He kept asking me if I had any questions but anyone who’s ever had a “real” job before could follow the gist of his conversation.

This meeting was followed by a meeting with the President of the College. He was a nice guy, or seem to be. He had his shoes off and his feet up on the table and was leaning back in his chair the whole time. It was a very casual meeting. I was surprised when he said he had a wife because I would have sworn he was gay.

Next I headed off to the coffee shop to meet with the chair of the department and the visiting chair from last year. This is where I began to realize that I didn’t want the job. I was told that the executive council was not happy with some of my answers and wanted clarification on some things. I addressed those things and expressed my concerns about the executive council. It seems that the college WAS determined to hire a PhD in my position. Except that no on has PhD in design that was born in the last 50 year. No one gets an academic degree in design. Those degrees are production based. Which means that I don’t have a dissertation they can hold up and examine to determine my scholarship abilities. They are more concerned with this than they are my artistic abilities. Not one of them asked about my work, design experience, or abilities. It’s clear they are confused as to what they are doing. I didn’t quite say that to the chair but I hinted toward it.

We continued this conversation a bit more and then the visiting chair began to speak. He is the epitome of “old school.” I don’t think he knows the first thing about design ideas of the 21st century, how teaching methods have changed, or at times even what we do. The more he spoke the clearer it became the he didn’t know what he was talking about. When he began to instruct me as to how to teach my class, I was pretty much over it. It only got worse from there. This guy is the type of instructor that was made fun of in my graduate studies. He goes against the very grain of my design aesthetic and my fundamental ideas of how to approach design. If he’s somewhat in charge here how the hell can I work here? How can I fit in here? Do I really want this job?

That’s what going through my head now. We finished our conversation today with him telling my my Master Class should be some sort of history lecture. I almost choked from holding back the laughter. I am not a historian. I can teach about the history of design, but it’s not a course I would be teaching here and I am not really interested in teaching it. I want to talk about design. So that’s what I am going to do. They may not like it, but I am beyond caring.

At this point I am not sure if the worst thing what would happen is not getting the job or actually GETTING the job.

Let It Snow! Let It Snow! Let It Snow!

As of 45 minutes ago, classes and all activities have been cancelled for the rest of the day in anticipation of the snow storm that is headed this way. Only in Iowa do you miss school for snow that hasn’t even happened yet. Although, rumor has it, that I-80 has been closed west of Des Moines and that a full scale blizzard is going to start any minute.

When I arrived home on Tuesday, it looked as if a tornado had struck. There were trees down everywhere, including my front yard. In fact, my driveway is blocked by a huge limb that is still somewhat connected to the tree in my front yard. This is all a result of the huge ice storm that came through over the weekend. There are still a number of people who are without electricity and won’t have it until the end of the weekend. I don’t have cable and Internet, but I do have power. Of course in the middle of nowhere, cable and Internet are essentials. I actually left home an hour early this morning so I could get to school and check email and read a few of the blogs that I read. I’ll keep you posted on whether the weather arrives.

I told you I would report on the weekend. I’ll start with my friend’s memorial service. It was actually quite nice, for a family man, with a son. The were co-workers singing his praises, a wife who told funny stories, and a band that played a medly of songs from a show that he was known for designing. All of this would be fine if it fit the person. What they forgot to mention is that he had left his wife more than 15 years ago to be gay, was a teacher with students who loved and hated him, and that the leader of the band refused to work with him anymore.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think his dirty laundry should be dragged out for everyone to see, but let’s not forget that he was human and made mistakes. How do you ignore the fact that he’s gay. GAY!!! It was mentioned once in two hours and that was barely in passing. In fact in the final thank you’s his ex-wife was referred to as his wife even though they haven’t been married for years and she’s been remarried for years. Let’s forget to mention that he’s had two significant lovers in the past ten years and even had a commitment ceremony with one of them. It was as if we pretended that if we didn’t say anything, then it never was. I wonder if this works with living people.

Next, we have to discuss the band that played. They were really good and the medley they played was quite uplifting. Putting that aside we have to look at the political implications. My friend C.P. hadn’t worked with the D.M. in years. C.P. made it very clear that there was no love lost between the two of them and that D.M. was pretty much an ass. And yet, standing on stage, as though they were long lost friends was D.M. singing his little heart out. The hypocrisy makes me shudder.

I guess the last thing that bothered me was that there was only one student who spoke. Besides his immediate family, I would like to think it was our lives he touched the most. I will never pick up a pencil again to start a design without thinking of C.P. I won’t choose color, or a light without thinking of him. I will never forget his dry British sense of humor. I won’t forget how cheap he was. I also won’t forget how talented he was and how generous it was of him to share his knowledge with us. None of these things were spoken at his memorial. I don’t think it should have necessarily been me to speak. But the voice of some of his students should have been heard. His design work aside, his teaching is what he’ll be remembered for most.

Other than those things it was a very nice event and I’m glad that I went. I got to see a lot of people I hadn’t seen in a while. Besides if I’d stayed in Iowa, I would have been without power all weekend and sleeping in my office.